- Have you been consistently pursuing the Lord through scripture reading and prayer?
- Have you diligently pursued your wife/husband this week?
- Have you seen any persistent patterns of sin in your life recently?
- Last week you confessed struggling with [insert sin]. Have you taken steps to fight it this week?
- When you gave into [insert sin], what were you believing about God in that moment? What were you believing about yourself?
- What is the truth that you need to believe in this situation?
- When you had the conflict with [insert person], what were you craving at that moment?
Which isn't to say I'm always going to want to be asked them, but a little examination of the heart is healthy - in the context of the oceans of God's grace and the all sufficiency of the blood of Jesus. Similarly useful are Powlison's X-Ray Questions ht: Buzzard or pdf: X-Ray Questions at Monergism.
It's possible to use these kind of questions rigidly or legalistically or fault-findingly, but also to use them to facilitate growth. What's probably most useful is if I ask them of myself when looking into the glory-revealing scriptures, or I invite others to ask them of me. What's not so helpful is me decidingly to go probing into others lives uninvited.