Friday, July 18, 2008

Loving my wife

When I got married if you'd asked me how I would best love my wife I would probably have said 'by telling her the gospel' - telling her everything I learn at conferences, loading the house up with books...

Six years later I'm inclined to think that at least 99% of the way I'll love my wife is by living sacrificially, listening, being patient, being kind, not speaking on so many of those occasions where I might be tempted to correct, challenge, critique etc, doing the washing up, being generous to her...

Back then I would probably have looked at my 29 year old self as having gone liberal (further evidence being that I don't think the Christian life consists entirely of 'doing evangelism' but that's for another post). From here it feels like I've gone a bit more human.

Sure I still share some of the conference stuff, and we have (a lot more) books in the house. Now though I view a conference as a service to help me grow in love and the test of any conference's benefit to me is how I relate to my wife when I get home. Still learning, hopefully still growing.